I actually know people who would say “Nah, I’m good on doctors. I don’t like going to the hospital” or “It’s just a lil cough. I’ll pray it away.” That sounds bold and great! Sounds like a person of faith, right? Well, majority of those people that said those phrases either got real sick or ended up passing away. Prime example:
My father hated hospitals. He refused to get checkups or take medicine. One day, he lost feeling in his leg. What he thought was just random leg pain ended up being a blood clot that was triggered from prostate cancer…stage 4. It went in remission, but again, he hated medicine, so thinking that it would just go away, it eventually returned and ultimately took his life.
That’s a tough story to tell, but I tell it to really drive home a point that self-evaluation is so important, not just health-wise, but character-wise as well. Just like we shouldn’t avoid hospitals and routine checkups, we shouldn’t avoid looking at the person in the mirror either. A good friend of mine, Roahn Hylton, once said to me “if you can master yourself, you can master anything.” In order to master yourself, you have to assess where you are. Every goal has a destination (point B). Every destination has a starting point (point A). Most people dream, but hate the bed that they’re in. You have to assess where you are, and accept the present for what it is.
“Do not despise these small beginnings…” – Zechariah 4:10a
Most people do not like going to the doctors because they are afraid of what the doctors may find. Here’s the thing, no matter what the issue(s) may be, ignoring the diagnosis isn’t going to heal you or make things go away. You are possibly making things worse and postponing the possible road to recovery. And guess what? They don’t have bandaids or make duct tape for character flaws.
I know, I know…looking in the mirror can be tough. Possibly finding out that you’re a toxic person isn’t a fun process. Most people would just chalk it up to “keeping it real” or “I’m gonna be me and I don’t care what no one think about me.” It’s impossible to grow as a person with that mindset. One thing I can assure you, the minute you analyze the good and the bad parts about you, the better things are going to turn out for you. Case and point:
I would be in public places trying to network, and realized that little to nobody approached me. So instead of analyzing myself, I carried the belief that THEY were stuck-up. Time and time again, I would be in a crowd and hardly anybody would spark a conversation with me. Then I started justifying things with myself and saying “it’s ok, I’m just an introvert.” Here’s the thing, I AM an introvert, however I was using “introvert” as a scapegoat, instead of looking at myself and fixing the issue. One day, I asked a few of my closest friends to be honest with me and tell me what I can improve on as a person. (An IMPORTANT STEP that I will expound on in part 4). They were straightforward with me and told me quite a few things that I had to swallow. One of the those things was that I was was unapproachable because of my facial expressions. My default face wasn’t inviting and I needed to smile more. That was an eye-opener for me. I didn’t realize that I frowned a lot in public. No wonder people didn’t line up to socialize with me. I felt fine, but my face told a different story. So I worked on that, and eventually fixed the issue. (I still have slip-ups tho, lol)
We all have good and not-so-good qualities about ourselves. Self-inventory will help you become the best version of you possible. It’s tough, sobering, humbling, and necessary. When you get that FREE DIAGNOSTIC TEST, make sure you read the results and repair accordingly.
In part 4 of this series, I will explain what you should do with your results. Stay tuned.